The Illusion of Humility

You may have heard the phrase, "Pride goes before a fall." But I ask you this: how much further can you fall?

Countless individuals remain stagnant in their lives because they hesitate to acknowledge their own strengths. They avoid taking pride in their achievements, mistakenly believing that humility is virtuous. Yet, no one has clarified that their understanding of humility is misguided.

People often equate humility with self-deprecation and minimizing their successes, which aligns with the dictionary's definition. According to Webster, to be humble means to be "not proud or haughty, not arrogant or assertive." While haughty and arrogant are undoubtedly negative traits, being assertive is not, which raises an important question.

If being humble means lacking assertiveness, it follows that assertive individuals are more likely to achieve their desires. In practice, assertive people tend to get what they want.

If humility is the opposite of assertiveness, then it’s clear that humility does not lead to getting your needs met. Let that resonate: you won’t attain what you deserve through humility. Instead, you must be assertive.

To assert yourself is to boldly express your needs and refuse to settle for anything less. It means recognizing your worth and not allowing others to undervalue you, regardless of external circumstances.

If assertiveness propels you forward while humility pulls you back, it gives you permission to be a little brash when necessary, especially if you're being held back by negativity. You must communicate in a manner that resonates with those who might otherwise undermine you. Otherwise, you'll remain stagnant.

Humility can be a trap that keeps you from progressing.

The False Facade of Humility

Consider the second definition of humility, which mentions submission. While submission may have its place, it becomes a hindrance when striving for your aspirations.

Leadership positions are typically not awarded to those who simply submit to authority. Many believe that by remaining submissive, they will eventually be recognized and rewarded. This assumption is flawed.

Power must be seized; it is not simply handed to you. Those who rise to leadership roles are individuals who already act with authority. You must take initiative and lead even in the absence of an official title. This is how you claim your power.

Submission will not help you achieve your goals or dreams. If you’ve been submissive, hoping that someone will eventually notice your potential, you have been misled. Such a mindset will only keep you stagnant. If you aspire for more, it is essential to adopt a leadership mentality.

Submission is a facade of humility.

The Dangers of False Humility

Let’s examine the final two definitions of humility, which suggest being “low in hierarchy” and “insignificant.” Is that how you want to be perceived by others?

Some might argue, “I’m just being genuine; I’m not pretentious.” But whose perspective matters here? Do you genuinely believe others view you as you see yourself?

You may be the only one who regards your behavior as humble; others may perceive it as incompetence. While they might compliment your humility, it won't translate into opportunities.

Consider adopting a more assertive demeanor. This doesn’t mean being rude or abusive; rather, it involves exhibiting the confidence of a leader. For starters, drop the formalities and address people by their first names.

Reflect on the idea that the opposite of humble is luxurious. Personally, I would prefer not to be seen as lacking in ambition.

If you’re realizing this a bit late in life, make sure not to instill the same misconceptions in your children. Have you ever noticed how children from royal families carry themselves? They exude confidence and assertiveness without appearing humble. They understand that success often requires a bold approach.

Be audacious, even if it feels uncomfortable. You may lack wealth, but don’t project a needy persona. Instead, always embody a champion's mentality.

True Humility Redefined

Without delving into religious debates, especially within Christian contexts, it’s essential to recognize how the notion of humility has been misconstrued. The idea that humility equates to poverty or submission is pervasive across various religions. However, I propose a redefined understanding of humility based on biblical principles.

False pride is boasting about your own accomplishments and attributing success solely to your efforts. In contrast, true humility involves acknowledging the faith and support others have shown you.

Genuine humility is about celebrating the contributions of others to your achievements and recognizing your role in uplifting those around you.

This does not imply that you should downplay your hard work or relinquish all recognition. Instead, identify and honor those who genuinely deserve credit. When you choose to be humble, publicly acknowledge their contributions. Elevate others using your platform; that’s the essence of true humility.

All that self-doubt, submission, and reluctance to assert yourself only serve to hold you back. It’s time to break free.